Every day deals are made, agreements signed, hands are shook; we make deals with ourselves, with God, with strangers, and we take our chances. This thing, this romantic notion of meeting someone, getting to know each other, falling in love whereby Hallmark and the chocolate industry gain two new consumers, is a relatively new thing.
Marrige plays a vital role in human civilization; it is the bonding agent that keeps society from falling apart which is vital for culture, and without culture, you have MTV. The fact that it only works half the time is inconsequencial, because those two miserable people go make two more marriges.
My mother may have known about this other woman from the start, but it would not have made any difference to her, she did not want my father. He offered to help, they married, but did not live together, and he maintained his relationship with this other woman, as evidenced by the children he will have with her. What did dad get out of this deal? I have no idea.
Mom has her baby, dad get them legal residence in the U.S., and then
mom moves to California to live with her uncle Ignacio in San Juan Capistrano. From all accounts she is happy there and she is working; my sister is growing up with Ignacio's children and learning english.
That was when my gradfather, Jose de la Luz, fell ill and mom decided to go back to San Juan to help take care of him. If you have been
reading my blog you would know that mom was in San Juan over a year and this would come back to haunt her. When she crossed the border into Mexico, because of her legal status which, i guess, in the first years, is in a probational period, she needed to have filed paper work stating her intent, a sort of permit that she would have an extended stay outside the U.S. Mom probably did not know this, and if she did, had no idea how long she would be in San Juan. But all is not lost, there is no way to prove she was out of the country for as long as she was. But here is where it gets complicated, dad actually reports her immigration, tells them what she's done; says: she done gone.
Why did he do that? Well, mom had whispered in the past that he did it out of spite. Well, that doesn't make sense, they had a deal, and it was his idea in the first place. So, what happens when she tries to go back to California? First of all, for some reason, she travels to Matamoros to cross which is the opposite way to get to California, but i guess it's the only border town she knows. (Ay, madre) The officials can't let her cross: it says here on our records that you bla-bla-bla.
So, why did dad report her? I did not really want to speculate, but we're here, let's have some fun.... Father may have had a plan from the begining, when he saw that mom was not really interested in him, and when she was ready to go off to California, he may have tried to talk her out of it. She may have said: let me just see what its like in California, i want to see my uncle Ignacio, anyway; if i don't like i will come back, i promise. Guys, we know that promise, right? He must have been in love with her, but after a couple of years he saw that his his plan was a bust. There was probably some resentment.
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